Hi Yes, I'm new to all of this, however the more I read I feel that my Mother falls into various categories. First of all she is 82, and really up to many months ago in relative good health, yes she has diabetes, heart problems and has had acute glaucoma, but all under check, ie medication or operation. However for the last few years she has on a regular basis been behaving oddly, telling me and accusing me of letting people into my flat ( I live below her) at all hours of the day and night as well as when I'm at work. I have had my locks changed twice as well as installing hd cameras to no avail and she still wont listen even though I can show her footage. Its now every other day, she also has irregular sleep patterns and is losing or hiding things again blaming me for stealing. We also has the same conversation over and over again. As she is a very strong independent person there is no way that I am able to get her to the doctors, we don't even go to the same practise. What can I do. Please help and advise
How worrying for you, and how fortunate your Mum is to have you living close to hand. Sadly, your post indicates several clues as to her health, and familiar traits. Firstly, you've done the right thing by joining TP, where you will find lots of people who not only understand, but can give you advice and support, first hand.
Alas, it doesn't matter how many times you reassure her that nobody has entered your flat, or show her cctv footage. As far as she's concerned, those people exist. I can only speak from my own experience, but when, for instance, John said that he couldn't get to sleep because "all those other people in my room are making a row", it was futile for me to say that there wasn't anybody there.
Instead I marched into the room, flung the door open and shouted "either stop making a noise or get out! Now!!". I ushered these invisible people out, and then told John they had all left, and he was happy to return to his room. Others have read how we entertained Margaret Thatcher in our home, long after she died, but that's another story.
Finding huge reserves of patience, and learning to deal with anything, in the most effective way, will eventually come. Meanwhile, welcome to TP.