Hi, found this site through Alzheimer's Uk, but have never posted on forums before. My mum is 76 and was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in January 2013.
My mum started on meds and I've really encouraged and supported her to continue an active social life which I know has been great.
Unfortunately though, my dad has been in hospital for 7 weeks and has now been diagnosed with Kidney Cancer and has been given 3 to 6 months. My mum's been staying with me since my dad went into hospital and my mum has really deteriorated with all the stress of my dad and being out of her own environment.
Finding it so hard as my mum keeps forgetting about his cancer, I'm not reminding her, but somehow every now and again she remembers and then is devastated all over again.
My partner is tolerating my mum staying with us but being really short with me and my son is type 1 diabetic and wears a pump so I'm up testing him through the night and I'm emotionally exhausted.
I understand that this is my mum, but I'm finding it really hard. I know partners must find it difficult when in-laws are staying with them so any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Also need advice about dealing with mood swings for my mum and how to deal with trying to help support her and my dad when he gets home to spend the rest of his time at home. I have secured a care package for my dad 3 time as a day and have morning care for my mum as well as dinner preparation.
Sorry, I feel I'm totally rambling and can't thank the people who support this enough. Hopefully will not have bored you all with my ramblings..
Take Care
Claireyclunk
My mum started on meds and I've really encouraged and supported her to continue an active social life which I know has been great.
Unfortunately though, my dad has been in hospital for 7 weeks and has now been diagnosed with Kidney Cancer and has been given 3 to 6 months. My mum's been staying with me since my dad went into hospital and my mum has really deteriorated with all the stress of my dad and being out of her own environment.
Finding it so hard as my mum keeps forgetting about his cancer, I'm not reminding her, but somehow every now and again she remembers and then is devastated all over again.
My partner is tolerating my mum staying with us but being really short with me and my son is type 1 diabetic and wears a pump so I'm up testing him through the night and I'm emotionally exhausted.
I understand that this is my mum, but I'm finding it really hard. I know partners must find it difficult when in-laws are staying with them so any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Also need advice about dealing with mood swings for my mum and how to deal with trying to help support her and my dad when he gets home to spend the rest of his time at home. I have secured a care package for my dad 3 time as a day and have morning care for my mum as well as dinner preparation.
Sorry, I feel I'm totally rambling and can't thank the people who support this enough. Hopefully will not have bored you all with my ramblings..
Take Care
Claireyclunk
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