This is my first post, although ive read through the site, in general, trying to gleem useful info, i live with my Mother, who has mixed vascular dementia, and have been her full time carer for 5 years, as you all know, the isolation felt as a carer, is huge, added to this mix, is my sexuality,i am lesbian, finding a forum for Lesbian and Gay carers, is great !
..i dont feel so alone now, the question id like to ask is....mum is now getting very frail, with bouts of double incontinence, in a small house, she furniture walks,but for how long who knows, i need now for her to go into a nursing home, and i realise she will have to fund this herself, as she has pension, and savings, over the limit, can i arrange a home without SS involvement? she is aged 90, and to be honest i fear losing the home i have shared with her , most of my adult life ( its in her name ) i have enduring power of attorney, sorry if this message appears garbled, i have so much i want to ask