I came across this forum this morning while looking for help support groups in my local area.
My mother is 77 years old and has been suffering from vascular dementia since 2002.She was able to maintain her own home with support from myself and other family members until January 2006 but following a stroke she now requires care 24/7.
On her discharge from hospital she moved in with another family member but this proved to be difficult as the family member concerned had not given full consideration to what the care issues and the life changing outcome would be for them and their family.Since September she has been living with me full time.
She attends Day Care 3 days a week from 10am to 3.30pm...not long enough to fit in with my full time job so I am constantly trying to juggle hours and other family members to cover and allow me to remain at work.
As a lone parent with mortgage and all the other bills to pay I need to keep my job. I have arranged a private sitter for three mornings a week but am finding it impossible to get anyone for the afternoons so the care is falling to my 14year old daughter.That wasnt a major problem until recently when Mum progressed to violent outbursts and constantly trying to go out so that its no longer a safe option.
I have read a lot of the posts on here (with tears streaming down my cheeks I may add) and can empathize with so many...not washing...verbal outbursts...nasty remarks...inappropiate behaviour...not eating.....the list just goes on and on..
Thank you for this site and the links to your fact sheets its good to know I am not alone.
Marie
My mother is 77 years old and has been suffering from vascular dementia since 2002.She was able to maintain her own home with support from myself and other family members until January 2006 but following a stroke she now requires care 24/7.
On her discharge from hospital she moved in with another family member but this proved to be difficult as the family member concerned had not given full consideration to what the care issues and the life changing outcome would be for them and their family.Since September she has been living with me full time.
She attends Day Care 3 days a week from 10am to 3.30pm...not long enough to fit in with my full time job so I am constantly trying to juggle hours and other family members to cover and allow me to remain at work.
As a lone parent with mortgage and all the other bills to pay I need to keep my job. I have arranged a private sitter for three mornings a week but am finding it impossible to get anyone for the afternoons so the care is falling to my 14year old daughter.That wasnt a major problem until recently when Mum progressed to violent outbursts and constantly trying to go out so that its no longer a safe option.
I have read a lot of the posts on here (with tears streaming down my cheeks I may add) and can empathize with so many...not washing...verbal outbursts...nasty remarks...inappropiate behaviour...not eating.....the list just goes on and on..
Thank you for this site and the links to your fact sheets its good to know I am not alone.
Marie