Although I use a computer at work my skills are basic! As are my "dealing with AD" skills. My husband was diagnosed June 2006 following an MRI scan and in depth history- I suspect the onset was at least a year before we got to that point.He also has a degree of Vascular Dementia. He is 71, I am 54. I still work 14 hrs a week over 4 days and have good support from the local teams. A sitter 2 mornings a week for 4 hours and access to a day centre on a Friday which he hates! He can wash and dress and make a cup of tea-occasionally cut the grass but feel he is dissolving into his armchair! This man is a brilliant pianist but needs to be reminded to play. Used to play golf 3 times a week and had such pride in his garden. Everything now is my responsibility. He was stopped from driving a year ago and continually tries to keep his memory going so that "they" will let him drive again. I have other family responsibilities too. My husband has 2 daughters who now live in Australia. I'm tired! Am planning a break in April next year with an old friend-she's booked tickets etc. all I have to do is find somewhere for my husband to go-this now terrifies me! He will not like it and will refuse to go-as he does the day centre sometimes-but I need a break. Have tried holidays with him -it's not a holiday for me.Does this sound selfish? He sleeps a lot-probably 12 hours a day and needs me to keep him going. His mobility is worsening and he needs to know where I am & what I'm doing. I leave notes and phone numbers when I go to work and try hard to reassure him. Am concerned now that putting him into respite care will make him lose his trust in me- also am worried about how I live with him when I break the news to him-which I haven't yet and won't until nearer the time. By the way- he maintains he does not have Alzheimers-his memory is better than many peoples-he has "perfect eyesight and hearing" and is obviously not facing up to it. I try to understand from his point of view-but that doesn't help me! I know there are lots of you out there with much worse problems and hope to be of some help to others-think I'm going to be here a lot!