Have just registered after reading a few messages and realising that I'm not the only one going through this!
My mum (76) has had Alzheimers for a couple of years, but declined quite rapidly last year when my Dad died. Poor dad, we never realised how bad Mum was until we had to start looking after her. She was unable to be left on her own as she has always had a fear of being on her own, but the Alzheimers had made her so much worse, so the only thing for us to do was put her in a home.
She's been in the home for over a year now, but still thinks that she's just staying the night, and that she'll be going home soon. Everytime I go and see her, she think's I've come to take her home.
Recently, she has on a couple of occasions become quite difficult for the care staff insisting that she's going home and packing all her things into her handbag! She refuses to have a bath and I'm not sure if she's actually cleaned her teeth since she's been in there.
I go to see her twice a week, an one of my brother goes about 3 times a week.
What I'm wondering now is, are we the ones unsettling her and not allowing her to get used to being there, by visiting her so often? Has anyone else gone through this and does anyone have any suggestions?
I'd love to hear from anyone in a similar position
My mum (76) has had Alzheimers for a couple of years, but declined quite rapidly last year when my Dad died. Poor dad, we never realised how bad Mum was until we had to start looking after her. She was unable to be left on her own as she has always had a fear of being on her own, but the Alzheimers had made her so much worse, so the only thing for us to do was put her in a home.
She's been in the home for over a year now, but still thinks that she's just staying the night, and that she'll be going home soon. Everytime I go and see her, she think's I've come to take her home.
Recently, she has on a couple of occasions become quite difficult for the care staff insisting that she's going home and packing all her things into her handbag! She refuses to have a bath and I'm not sure if she's actually cleaned her teeth since she's been in there.
I go to see her twice a week, an one of my brother goes about 3 times a week.
What I'm wondering now is, are we the ones unsettling her and not allowing her to get used to being there, by visiting her so often? Has anyone else gone through this and does anyone have any suggestions?
I'd love to hear from anyone in a similar position