Hello everybody,
My dad has been suffering from Alzheimers for 14 years, he is now 65 and in a care home. My mum cared for him until february this year, when if became impossible to look after him at home. He had to be taken to the respite care centre (he had been going there once a week for years) until a place became available in a home. When he was there he became very distressed then very ill with a chest infection, then 3 months in hospital, on a general ward, so distressing as other patients and families did not understand his illness. Anyway it was touch and go for a while, but he managed to beat the infection. The doctor who treated him in hospital told my mother, sister and I that he didnt think my dad should recieve antibiotics as it would be better if he passed on as hos life was not worth living. we were in such a state. it seems surreal really that a dodcor can ask us whether we want to give treatment or not. He was transfered to another hospital, a small community hospital, where he was under the care of out GP. He told us that he was going to give my dad all the chances by aggressivly treating the infection (such a difference from the other doctor). My dad got better and has now been moved to a nursing home near my mothers village in snowdonia. he seems to have settled, but is unable to do anything exept lie in bed and eat liquified food. He is getting stronger,but is now starting to become more distressed, crying and shouting etc. I cannot stand to see him like that, it breaks my heart and it has got to the point now that I dont want to visit, because I know I will hurt so much. I feel so selfish, I have been there for him and my mum for years and moved back to my home village after university in order to help with the care, but now I feel that I cant take anymore. I hate this illness so much for what it has done to my dad and out family, bit I feel that I have no more energy left. Sorry to vent but feeling upest today. Annj
My dad has been suffering from Alzheimers for 14 years, he is now 65 and in a care home. My mum cared for him until february this year, when if became impossible to look after him at home. He had to be taken to the respite care centre (he had been going there once a week for years) until a place became available in a home. When he was there he became very distressed then very ill with a chest infection, then 3 months in hospital, on a general ward, so distressing as other patients and families did not understand his illness. Anyway it was touch and go for a while, but he managed to beat the infection. The doctor who treated him in hospital told my mother, sister and I that he didnt think my dad should recieve antibiotics as it would be better if he passed on as hos life was not worth living. we were in such a state. it seems surreal really that a dodcor can ask us whether we want to give treatment or not. He was transfered to another hospital, a small community hospital, where he was under the care of out GP. He told us that he was going to give my dad all the chances by aggressivly treating the infection (such a difference from the other doctor). My dad got better and has now been moved to a nursing home near my mothers village in snowdonia. he seems to have settled, but is unable to do anything exept lie in bed and eat liquified food. He is getting stronger,but is now starting to become more distressed, crying and shouting etc. I cannot stand to see him like that, it breaks my heart and it has got to the point now that I dont want to visit, because I know I will hurt so much. I feel so selfish, I have been there for him and my mum for years and moved back to my home village after university in order to help with the care, but now I feel that I cant take anymore. I hate this illness so much for what it has done to my dad and out family, bit I feel that I have no more energy left. Sorry to vent but feeling upest today. Annj