Hello everyone,
firstly I hope Im typing this in the right place!
My name is elle(2). Six months ago my husband and I became fully envolved in caring for my aunt who has alzheimers.She lives 200 miles away from us and flatly refused to move. The gp and neighbours were very worried about her. So after alot of discussion we have changed our lives completey and my husband has moved his job near to her, and he stays with her monday to friday, and then she comes up here at weekends.I have a business up here so theres no question of me going down full time, Im going to be honest as you all seem like a really caring bunch, that makes me feel very guilty.
Over the 6 months we have come to realise just how bad she is, I now have a signed letter fom her saying Im alould to discuss her with the gp etc. That has helpt as she dosent remember she has been. We have now got The memory clinic going in on monday, my husband is going to be there too. Im wondering what to expect? Im keen to get her envolved in local lunch club centre Ive been told about from your helpline, again can anyone give me some feedback?? I guess I generally need help and support, Im frightened I might be making things worse sometimes as she is conveniced nothing is wrong with her memory and then asks me the same questions on a 5 min cycle. Should I actually just be answering all over again or should I, as I have been, saying, "like I said a couple of mins ago...." Im sorry all these questions!
One thing I do want to make very clear, is she is clean and tidy and the house is cleaner than mine! Its just she is now not wanting to go out because she might not remember where she lives. She eats properly etc.Her memories of certain events in the past are clear but repeated alot. But when we take her out to lunch she is unable to make a decission what to have. We are both very worried and really need some help and advice on this.
Sorry for the long post, but Im just so relieved to have found you all!
all the best
elle2
firstly I hope Im typing this in the right place!
My name is elle(2). Six months ago my husband and I became fully envolved in caring for my aunt who has alzheimers.She lives 200 miles away from us and flatly refused to move. The gp and neighbours were very worried about her. So after alot of discussion we have changed our lives completey and my husband has moved his job near to her, and he stays with her monday to friday, and then she comes up here at weekends.I have a business up here so theres no question of me going down full time, Im going to be honest as you all seem like a really caring bunch, that makes me feel very guilty.
Over the 6 months we have come to realise just how bad she is, I now have a signed letter fom her saying Im alould to discuss her with the gp etc. That has helpt as she dosent remember she has been. We have now got The memory clinic going in on monday, my husband is going to be there too. Im wondering what to expect? Im keen to get her envolved in local lunch club centre Ive been told about from your helpline, again can anyone give me some feedback?? I guess I generally need help and support, Im frightened I might be making things worse sometimes as she is conveniced nothing is wrong with her memory and then asks me the same questions on a 5 min cycle. Should I actually just be answering all over again or should I, as I have been, saying, "like I said a couple of mins ago...." Im sorry all these questions!
One thing I do want to make very clear, is she is clean and tidy and the house is cleaner than mine! Its just she is now not wanting to go out because she might not remember where she lives. She eats properly etc.Her memories of certain events in the past are clear but repeated alot. But when we take her out to lunch she is unable to make a decission what to have. We are both very worried and really need some help and advice on this.
Sorry for the long post, but Im just so relieved to have found you all!
all the best
elle2
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