I had Similar problems with my Father
Hi Litz
I only joined 2 days ago as i have set up a petition at 10 Downing street website about the decision by NICE to withdraw drugs for early and late stage Alzheimers sufferers
http://petitions.pm.gov.uk/alzheimerdrugs/ would appreciate support if you can .
My father served in the army all his life coming through the ranks and retiring as A Major M.B.E.
My wife and I moved to North Lincolnshire about 4 years ago and all was well with him and my mother, although we were moving away from Kent where they live.
On his first visit to us I had to meet him 20 miles away as he was lost. This was our first indication that all was not right.
Since then his mental state declined rapidly and each time I visited he was worse.
He too got aggressive and was prescribed Quietapine for his agitation, this helped and maybe a visit to the doctor with your Father in Law would be useful.
My mother who is 82 had to go into hospital leaving no one to look after my Father.
I travelled down to Kent and bought him back here to stay with us. He was fine on the first night but on the second night he was wetting himself and terribly confused. This continued and I was getting no sleep at all. The family consulted and we decided to put him into respite care locally, while Mum was in hospital.
This was the hardest thing I have ever had to do and it broke my heart to take him to that nursing home.
I visited him every day and although he was not completely happy he was a lot more settled and getting the care he needed 24/7.
We decided to contact Social Services in Kent and explain the situation especially as we were concerned about him going home with my Mum being elderly and being diagnosed with a heart problem.
Social services agreed to do an assesment on him when he returned. This resulted in him going into full time care, so it might be an idea to get your Father in Law assesed but I know what a difficult decision this is and don't know what your husband feels.
My father did get state funding of about £300 a month but still has to pay £960.00 out of his Army Pension for his care costs absolutely disgusting!
He has never been prescribed anything else for his Alzheimers which is terrible and why I set up my petition.
I hope my story has helped and feel free to reply if you have any more questions.
Good Luck
Regards Mark