Hello, my husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer's dementia early this year. I gave u work last year as my family and I realised my husband was not coping well at home alone. Although this brought big financial implications we are happy and cope relatively well on a very reduced income.
I worked for years as a healthcare professional and had a lot of contact with people living with dementia, however the past year and a half has opened me up to emotions I did not anticipate. The love for my husband has changed to a much more tender love and very protective.
I experience feelings of frustration, anger, hopelessness, love, love and more love
I am frightened of forgetting I am his wife and not his mother but my role sometimes feels like that. I am afraid of over protecting him and dis-enabling him from maintaining skills he still has, though he does not seem to have many daily skills left.
My main frustration is that he does not realise he has a memory condition and refuses to accept that he has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's. His memory retention is approx 30 seconds to 1-2 minutes. If you did not know him though he could fool you. He has started 'remembering' seeing the same people whenever we go out doing the same things, wearing the same things etc. He tells wonderful stories to people which now I let go as it is his reality not mine The only time I may try to change his recall of a situation is when it involves my or our history. I think it is important to preserve the reality of our history as long as possible.
How do I realise early stage dementia has changed to middle stage?
How often should I seek advice from my GP?
Do we just carry on till something happens that I don't understand or can't cope with?
You would think I should know this but this is so different and not the way we anticipated spending our retirement years.
I worked for years as a healthcare professional and had a lot of contact with people living with dementia, however the past year and a half has opened me up to emotions I did not anticipate. The love for my husband has changed to a much more tender love and very protective.
I experience feelings of frustration, anger, hopelessness, love, love and more love
I am frightened of forgetting I am his wife and not his mother but my role sometimes feels like that. I am afraid of over protecting him and dis-enabling him from maintaining skills he still has, though he does not seem to have many daily skills left.
My main frustration is that he does not realise he has a memory condition and refuses to accept that he has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's. His memory retention is approx 30 seconds to 1-2 minutes. If you did not know him though he could fool you. He has started 'remembering' seeing the same people whenever we go out doing the same things, wearing the same things etc. He tells wonderful stories to people which now I let go as it is his reality not mine The only time I may try to change his recall of a situation is when it involves my or our history. I think it is important to preserve the reality of our history as long as possible.
How do I realise early stage dementia has changed to middle stage?
How often should I seek advice from my GP?
Do we just carry on till something happens that I don't understand or can't cope with?
You would think I should know this but this is so different and not the way we anticipated spending our retirement years.