Hello my name is Carole and my Mum has dementia. I need a place to chat and try and understand a bit more about dementia. My Mum has been going down hill for about 5 years. She broke her hip last year but recovered then a few months later fell again and broke her knee and ankle. She is 85 and now in a home. I feel very sad as I have had to sell her house to pay for the home and everyday she asks me when is she going home. The practical side of me knows I have done the right thing but when I see her little face, I just want to scoop her up and take her home. She suffers grief, she gets upset, feels depressed and cries a lot. I feel helpless. She also suffers from hallucations. When she sleeps during the day, she sometimes wakes up confused and thinks she is in a basement and has been kidnapped! It takes a lot of work and reassurance that she is safe and OK. She thinks the home is a hospital. I have been advised not to tell her about the sale of the house as it would hurt too much. I do understand that. She has been prescribed Lorazepan to help keep her calm. She remembers the past but day to day even hour to hour is hard for her to remember and she gets scared about it. I suppose I am describing typical dementia? As I don't really understand and realise every case is different, I just wanted to get some advice. I am meeting the GP tomorrow at the care home to see if they have any advice. As an individual I am grieving losing my lovely mum. I still see glimpse of the mum I use to know but dementia has robbed me of my lovely mum . thanks for letting me share .