Hello good people.

[garfield3]

Dear fellow ex- travellers,

It’s now nearly two months since mum died and was at the funeral 5 weeks ago. Was just wondering how you are all doing? I’m rattling around ,handed in my notice at work 2 weeks ago plus hubby ( work at the same school)... going home for Xmas to be with dad. He’s only got me now. Feel sort of OK . Don’t really cry about mum or uncle who died February this year too. Got all the orders of service lined up at the moment near the telly. Father-in-law , very close uncle and mum. Find it comforting. Too many this year.

Keep wondering when it’ll hit me and I’ll just cry a lot. Don’t know if it will though. Feel I should be more sad or something. Don’t really know. Any insight into this new game??

I do know that being an adult is stinking. Don’t like it. Just needed to talk. You know how it is sometimes.

Thanks for listening.

Suexx

 

[Dimpsy]

Hello Sue, raw grief affects us all differently and is never the way you think it will be and it looks as if you have lost three family members within a short space of time. No wonder you don't know if you are coming or going, you are in a state of shock.
Have you thought about asking for some professional help; there are bereavement councillors who could help you understand your emotions.
I agree, it's hard work being a grown up.
Sending best wishes and peace to you.

 

[Bikerbeth]

Everyone is so different and grief affects us differently. I can only say - None were my PWD but my partner died followed by his mother (who I was close to) 6 months later and then my Dad died 5 months after that. I never cried for any of them as I was trying to be strong for everyone else. Then my cat died 4 weeks after my Dad and I bawled my eyes out for what seemed a whole day. Every time I thought I could not cry anymore I started again. I never cried like that again but I would have an odd cry occasionally when something poignant reminded me of one of them. It was a tough year like the year you have had. I hope you can find comfort with your Dad and your hubby. This has been made worse for you by your work situation whereas my work kept me going as I loved what I was doing and the people I worked with.
I am not very keen on this being a responsible grown up either.
Virtual hugs to you at this tough time