1. Expert Q&A: Protecting a person with dementia from financial abuse - Weds 26 June, 3:30-4:30 pm

    Financial abuse can have serious consequences for a person with dementia. Find out how to protect a person with dementia from financial abuse.

    Sam, our Knowledge Officer (Legal and Welfare Rights) is our expert on this topic. She will be here to answer your questions on Wednesday 26 June between 3:30 - 4:30 pm.

    You can either post questions >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll answer as many as we can on the day.

  1. needsomecake

    needsomecake Registered User

    Apr 12, 2008
    10
    I have finally decided to register and post on Talking Point, after much lurking in the past few weeks. My dad had a stroke back in 2000 and was quite disabled by it. He was diagnosed with advanced prostate cancer during a stay in hospital last summer - he went in beacuse he suddenly became very confused and disorientated. The confusion never lifted, and after a short stay back in his home, he moved into a nursing home. We thought his confusion was related to the cancer but having spoken to his GP yesterday it seems they have made a 'working' diagnosis of multi-infarct (vascular?) dementia. He has just turned 63, fortunately he appears to have forgotten about the cancer.

    Having read all your posts, his symptoms do ring lots of bells. It seems that now he gets muddled as to who I am - a classic conversation happened last Thursday:

    Dad - Do you think your mother will mind about the age difference?

    Me - I'm not sure what you mean, Dad :confused:

    Dad - I thought she might get upset when I ask you to marry me - and you will say yes when I ask won't you? :eek:

    Bless.

    I have never been his carer, but hope to share my experiences if it might help anyone. I have been through the Court of Protection procedure as Dad never set up any kind of power of attourney. While obviously no expert, my experience may be of use to others...

    Anyway, hope to post more soon. Best wishes to all on Talking Point :)
     
  2. Mameeskye

    Mameeskye Registered User

    Aug 9, 2007
    1,669
    NZ
    Hi Needssomecake

    Welcome

    I love your user name. It describes how I feel right now!!

    I remember these surreal conversations. Once had one with Mum on the phone

    Mum: s is playing outside
    Me: but I'm on the phone
    Mum: yes, but you're playing outside. I'd better see where you've gone

    End of conversation. You get used to being yourself and someone else too!

    Love

    Mameeskye
     
  3. hendy

    hendy Registered User

    Feb 20, 2008
    506
    West Yorkshire
    Hi Needsomecake
    Your post sounded so familiar to the kind of conversations I had with Dad a few years ago. It does have its comedic side. Mameeskye's absolutely right. Get used to having a multiple personality!!
    The other day a patient on my dads ward thought I was his wife:eek: I had to point out that 'I'm his daughter and he's divorced'. After all its very ageing to have to deal with a mum or dad with dementia. I certainly feel a lot older than my years!!
    Sorry you had to find us, but Welcome to the club anyway!
    take care
    hendy
    ps I think you've got my middle name!
     

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