Hello All! I have a Great Aunt who has recently been diagnosed with A.D. She is 80 years old. She has always been held very closely within the circle of the family and we have now 'lost' her (well that's how it feels, and i really 'miss her'). We, as a family are now going through the 'hoops' to get her into a care home, but day by day she is getting worse. As a family we all live at least 1.5 hours away from her, she is a widow, never had any children and there is no one in her area to look after her and watch her, we have a cleaner once a week for her and her meals delivered. Her neighbour is very good,(she holds a key to my Aunts house, to let her in when she's forgotten hers, she will inform us of problems as they arise - normally on a daily basis) but she is expressing her worry about the situation and doesn't really want the 'responsibility'(which as a family we totally understand). My Aunt is now wondering, she has been seen nearly 4 miles from her house (on that occassion she was picked up by a neighbour's daughter and taken back home). She will not eat her meal on wheels dinners, she is often verbally agressive to my parents and talks about 'people' living in her house with her (she lives on her own). We are finding all of this very distressing. It is starting to take it's toll on my parents, with the worry and gilt that they feel, as they try to understand and deal with the ever occuring problems. I suppose i'm really looking for anyone who can give us some idea about how long it takes to get someone into a care home, after an assessment. We have been told that she does not warrant multi displinary team intervention, that Social Services will 'look into it',but we feel that for every door that we try to push open and every hoop that we jump through we come to a dead end. We thought that when her assessment was done by a consultant and it was indicated that she need care urgently that things would be sorted out 'within the system' and we would be informed of a placement, but nothing has happened and we have been told by the hospital that her file has now been closed, no reason given, just 'closed'. ANY advice would be greatly received, Should we be doing more? Should we be 'pushing' or 'demanding'? We really are at an all time low, without a light at the end of the tunnel. Please don't think that we are just trying to get our Aunt into a home to get rid of a 'problem', if anything we want it for HER safety as her ability to understand has gone. Thank You for your time in reading my post.