Hi there, my mum was diagnosed with mild dementia last Nov. Already we've been on a bit of a roller coaster but I'm learning fast. Mum lives alone since dad died October 14. I live over 80 miles away and rely on public transport to get to see her. With social services and drs support I have a lot in place regarding her care and my peace of mind. Most of her physical needs are being met and Im hoping she'll soon get some day care to help with mental and emotional needs as she's lonely and bored. My problem is that my suggestions to her to help stop being bored are always rejected. She's not a reader. Can't or won't follow films. She hates talking on the phone. It hurts to think she just sits but she is unable to help herself and I feel useless. She has been attending CST for 2 morning a week. Mum told me that she didn't like going , saying it wasnt her thing. Yet when I spoke to the staff there they said she'd loved it-and didn't want to leave! I can't help thinking that some of mums actions are ....how can I say it......fabricated? The doc told me that she will do whatever is necessary to get by. I feel at times that mum is playing a part of her idea of an old lady with dementia. How does one deal with the ups and downs, the moods and anquish she seems to suffer? I try to tell myself she's physically not in pain and Im doing what I can but she's saying she's only happy when Im there. I hate thinking she's so sad but can I ever change it? Its helped just voicing my worries I guess. Thanks