Well we had a new carer today!! I am sure the lady meant well but her visit didn't half leave me feeling as though I am a dreadful carer. Why wasn't laddo having proper meals (cos he wont eat them),why were his feet so dry (because he can't stand me creaming them),why wasn't he in the bath every day (because he can't stand the feel of water), why wasn't he walking (because the chest infection has knocked him off his feet), why didn't I lift laddo properly (because I haven't had the appropraite training) why wasn't he exercising daily (no physio - due soon. Net result - carer thinks 6 weeks in a care home would work wonders. I should cocoa!! But clearly I ought to be doing a lot more - if only laddo was that cooperative. To top it all the new carer is a specialist in dementia. Great! Heigh ho - tomorrow is another day.