Heaven bound...........
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Thinking of you, Taffy - you are a special person, and you seem to have already found the strength to see beyond your own grief. You are an example to us all in 'setting your Mum's soul free'. Take care!!
Taffy I am so sad for you, but the end of the journey has come.
I am not sure what your mum meant by scattering her to the four winds, perhaps you could have some of her ashes buried with her mother, and the rest placed on a mountain top - is that allowed? Is there a favourite hill that she had? My dad had a specific request when he died, and I had to go along with it, but I wish I hadn't. But at the end of the day, does it matter Taffy, your mum has gone, you looked after her, did everything you could do, much love to you.
Margaret
I am not sure what your mum meant by scattering her to the four winds, perhaps you could have some of her ashes buried with her mother, and the rest placed on a mountain top - is that allowed? Is there a favourite hill that she had? My dad had a specific request when he died, and I had to go along with it, but I wish I hadn't. But at the end of the day, does it matter Taffy, your mum has gone, you looked after her, did everything you could do, much love to you.
Margaret
Taffy
Just thinking, but most graves and other memorials can usually accommodate a small cask of ashes. Please do ask so you know what your options are,
Margaret
Just thinking, but most graves and other memorials can usually accommodate a small cask of ashes. Please do ask so you know what your options are,
Margaret
Thank you
Thank you all so much for your kind and caring messages. I am beside myself with grief and my thoughts are all over the place.
I have arranged mum's funeral service for next Monday and it's even in the same chapel as her mum's was conducted ( there are four chapels ).
At the cemetery they use to dedicate a place where the ashes could be scattered to the four winds of heaven. The ashes were scattered free into the air and winds just carried them until they landed. If there were no winds the ashes just fall where they fall.
It's now illegal to scatter ashes unless on private property or so many miles out to sea. I thought a option could be to bury mum's ashes in the rose garden without being in a urn....that's not allowed either. I'll just collect her ashes and bring them home. Well before mum got dementia she asked us kids to make sure she was cremated at 'Rookwood' and her ashes set free.
I'll set her ashes free and I'll have a plaque on the Remembrance Wall in the same cemetery as dad.
Love Taffy.
Thank you all so much for your kind and caring messages. I am beside myself with grief and my thoughts are all over the place.
I have arranged mum's funeral service for next Monday and it's even in the same chapel as her mum's was conducted ( there are four chapels ).
Margaret W said:
At the cemetery they use to dedicate a place where the ashes could be scattered to the four winds of heaven. The ashes were scattered free into the air and winds just carried them until they landed. If there were no winds the ashes just fall where they fall.
It's now illegal to scatter ashes unless on private property or so many miles out to sea. I thought a option could be to bury mum's ashes in the rose garden without being in a urn....that's not allowed either. I'll just collect her ashes and bring them home. Well before mum got dementia she asked us kids to make sure she was cremated at 'Rookwood' and her ashes set free.
I'll set her ashes free and I'll have a plaque on the Remembrance Wall in the same cemetery as dad.
Love Taffy.
Dear Taffy, I'm so sorry to read the distressing news about your mum. Thinking of you and sending you sincere condolences. Love Deborah
Dear Taffy,
I was sorry to hear that your Mum had died.
My Mum died last year and we scattered her ashes in our Church garden. There is also a memorial bench with her name on and we planted a memorial rose in our own garden at home.
I hope that the funeral goes well on Monday.
Take care,
Best wishes,
Kayla
I was sorry to hear that your Mum had died.
My Mum died last year and we scattered her ashes in our Church garden. There is also a memorial bench with her name on and we planted a memorial rose in our own garden at home.
I hope that the funeral goes well on Monday.
Take care,
Best wishes,
Kayla
Taffy, I don't want to add to your grief but it does seem quite common for other cemeteries to allow the scattering of ashes, why is yours forbidding it?
Dad's were scattered in a garden of remembrance, and you could plant a bush there, but we didn't bother. I definitely want my mum's remains to be scattered with him when she dies, so I would be very, very upset if it was forbidden.
Hope you find an acceptable solution.
Love
Margaret
PS if they don't allow my mum to be scattered with my dad, then I know where his favourite field was when he was a boy, and I'll scatter them there, and no-one will ever know. These little things are important to us. Rightly so.
Love again
Margaret
Dad's were scattered in a garden of remembrance, and you could plant a bush there, but we didn't bother. I definitely want my mum's remains to be scattered with him when she dies, so I would be very, very upset if it was forbidden.
Hope you find an acceptable solution.
Love
Margaret
PS if they don't allow my mum to be scattered with my dad, then I know where his favourite field was when he was a boy, and I'll scatter them there, and no-one will ever know. These little things are important to us. Rightly so.
Love again
Margaret
Dear Margaret,Margaret W said:
I live in Australia and can only speak for the state I live in....scattering of ashes is banned and it is something to do with pollution. Ashes buried in the earth must be placed in a urn....bodies in a casket with the exception of those who's religious beliefs dictate otherwise.
Margaret W said:
That is what I'm going to do, dad is laid to rest near the beach and our winter is coming the strong winds come in from the ocean and the sea is to cold for swimming the cemetery is secluded and surrounded by native bush. Love Taffy.
Dear Taffy
I hope you have a meaningful service and all goes as well as it can.
Take care.
Margaret
I hope you have a meaningful service and all goes as well as it can.
Take care.
Margaret
Dear Taffy, only just caught up with your sad news.
Your dear mum is at peace now, and can rejoin your dad.
Hope that you can find some oasis of calm and peace for yourself.
Thinking of you,
Your dear mum is at peace now, and can rejoin your dad.
Hope that you can find some oasis of calm and peace for yourself.
Thinking of you,
