Some of you will already have read my previous threads. My mom has LWD and is currently in a respite bed at a local care home - she has been there for nearly two weeks.
I had to do something to keep her safe as I could not be in two places at once. I had spent nearly 8 days/nights with her (she lived alone, refused to fund carers) and had wandered out of the house in the middle of the night. The police picked her up and took her home and called me as they had my details from when she went AWOL from the local hospital in July. She went into the care home willingly, signed the paperwork and I left her - I am not quite sure what 'love lies' I told as I had reached breaking point and knew that I could not carry on any longer and although Crisis, a Mental Health consultant and her GP were involved they just kept telling me a plan will be made tomorrow. This started early hours 23 December and I finally put her into respite on the 29th.
I do not have POA yet it should be granted the end of this month/beginning of February.
Today I phoned the care home to see how she was. Unfortunately rather than a carer telling me how things were they brought my mom to the phone and so the ranting started. She is finished with me for putting her there, she does not know why I would treat her like this, all I am after is her money, using her money etc etc she then walked away from the phone and continued to tell the carers how awful I was - she had not hung up so I literally heard everything including the carers agreeing with her.
Apparently I am keeping her bank card - yes I do have her bank card because she doesn't know how to use a cashpoint she always went into the bank and did things over the counter. Since Covid this has not been possible so she would ask me for cash from the cashpoint. Then she is telling them how good she has been to me etc etc amongst other things.
It was basically a stomach punch. I have always been there for her (I am an only child and my dad died over 30 years ago). Prior to Covid she was at my home more than her own and since the first Covid lockdown I am the only person who has made sure she is ok and since September I have been there every morning with two meals, washing, bits of shopping etc etc putting my own family second. In July she was hospitalised with delirium and went from the hospital into an assessment bed at a care home - at the beginning of September Social Services decided she could go home with a care package - within a month she had stopped the care package and everything was left to me.
My mom is not the easiest person to get on with, trust me we have had our differences but this horrid disease has brought out the worst in her and I am not sure I can deal with the low blows. I know she cannot help it but I do not think I have the strength to do it.
I had to do something to keep her safe as I could not be in two places at once. I had spent nearly 8 days/nights with her (she lived alone, refused to fund carers) and had wandered out of the house in the middle of the night. The police picked her up and took her home and called me as they had my details from when she went AWOL from the local hospital in July. She went into the care home willingly, signed the paperwork and I left her - I am not quite sure what 'love lies' I told as I had reached breaking point and knew that I could not carry on any longer and although Crisis, a Mental Health consultant and her GP were involved they just kept telling me a plan will be made tomorrow. This started early hours 23 December and I finally put her into respite on the 29th.
I do not have POA yet it should be granted the end of this month/beginning of February.
Today I phoned the care home to see how she was. Unfortunately rather than a carer telling me how things were they brought my mom to the phone and so the ranting started. She is finished with me for putting her there, she does not know why I would treat her like this, all I am after is her money, using her money etc etc she then walked away from the phone and continued to tell the carers how awful I was - she had not hung up so I literally heard everything including the carers agreeing with her.
Apparently I am keeping her bank card - yes I do have her bank card because she doesn't know how to use a cashpoint she always went into the bank and did things over the counter. Since Covid this has not been possible so she would ask me for cash from the cashpoint. Then she is telling them how good she has been to me etc etc amongst other things.
It was basically a stomach punch. I have always been there for her (I am an only child and my dad died over 30 years ago). Prior to Covid she was at my home more than her own and since the first Covid lockdown I am the only person who has made sure she is ok and since September I have been there every morning with two meals, washing, bits of shopping etc etc putting my own family second. In July she was hospitalised with delirium and went from the hospital into an assessment bed at a care home - at the beginning of September Social Services decided she could go home with a care package - within a month she had stopped the care package and everything was left to me.
My mom is not the easiest person to get on with, trust me we have had our differences but this horrid disease has brought out the worst in her and I am not sure I can deal with the low blows. I know she cannot help it but I do not think I have the strength to do it.