It's all well and good to tell me to look after myself but colds etc can't always be prevented, and when I fall ill, I still have to care. I can't just turn around in bed instead. And no one looks after me then, I have to get my medication myself and make my own meals. If you can get carers in for people with dementia, we should be able to get them when we are ill too. But of course we're not. Somehow it's always our fault when we're ill, as we didn't look after ourselves better. That's because no one else does! I live in constant fear of having an accident and leaving OH on his own, but the stupid council worker responsible for carer emergency cards has still not been able to send me mine even though I have chased for months and months! I am thoroughly fed up of hearing well-meaning advice on how to stay healthy, and I mean absolutely no offence to you, Grey Lad, I am just frustrated this morning (and ill).