Dear bel.
Have you considered Karen`s suggestion of contacting Victim`s Support? it is a good idea and you will never know what help is there for you unless you ask.
Another thing I was thinking about.
Could you find out if there is a support group near you for couples? Some are run by the AS and some are run by the day centres.
If there is, would it be possible for you to close the shop for half a day and go to one of these support groups with Bob.
Dhiren has just started to attend a memory clinic with me. He likes it. He sees other people in the same situation as he is, sees they are all ok but have no memory. Some speak, others don`t, but they sit together and with the help of an OT spend 90 minutes helping each other. they are not all old, some are young onset like Bob.
I`m hoping eventually it will lead to day care for Dhiren. I wondered if you could start something like this with Bob.
Love xx