Hi I am 68 years old and have been unhappy with my husband (74) for decades. We have essentially lived separately under the same roof . In recent years I have noticed changes in his cognition which have gradually limited my freedom eg we don’t travel, or even go for days out, don’t go out to eat or socialise except with one couple , I can’t stop him buying food we can’t eat only to throw it away, I can’t leave him alone overnight, have had to block calls because of scams, to insist on not replacing the car he wrote off etc etc. I told him I was unhappy and wanted to separate and he just replied “W ell I don’t “ and turned away. He has never accepted there is anything wrong with him or his behaviour towards me ( partly my fault for being such a doormat I suppose). Though he has not got any formal diagnosis, I could see he would not be able to live alone had decided that it was my duty to stay and look after him. But - and it’s a huge but - since he has been in hospital (with a broken leg) I have realised that his absence has brought me such peace and rekindled the simple joy in living, that I am just not willing to give it up. Has anyone any advice on what I can do ?