I have recently come back from a holiday with my daughter, whilst my hub by was in respite. On my return I was told by ch that he had broken 3 windows and put his knee through an outside gate. By way of explanation, the ch told me that he was constantly trying to get out, was very agitated and they had to resort to medication to calm him, which wasn't easy. They, the pro's have said that he is quite complex and needs one to one care and watched 24 hrs. Of course, I cannot do this at home, and they are suggesting that now is the time for residential care.
The mhn is coming in tomorrow as ss have referred him back to her and the social worker attached to her team. A continuing health care plan is going to be applied for but I am wondering what this will involve. Hubby is very volatile and yet, amazingly, can still put on a front. I dread tomorrow when she has to fill in the form with us together, as I have kept everything from him and he is unaware what is likely to happen. His behaviour is very challenging and yet he is still very strong and able,altho his mind has almost gone, and his recognition of family members is zilch.
I am so upset, don't really want to go down this path, but I know deep down I cannt cope for much longer, but there is still that little spark there , and I have a guilt trip. He is not eating very well now, and I fear incontinence is not very far away.
He had a bad day this week when he couldn't handle going to the toilet , Dr had prescribed some medication for his blocked bowel, and it was everywhere.
Where do I go from here, I cry myself to sleep most nights and feel selfish, thinking about myself and not him. We have been married 54 yrs and it is a heartbreaking,end
for both.. Sorry to burden e veryone I know you all have your own problems. There doesn't seem to be that much help out there !!!!
The mhn is coming in tomorrow as ss have referred him back to her and the social worker attached to her team. A continuing health care plan is going to be applied for but I am wondering what this will involve. Hubby is very volatile and yet, amazingly, can still put on a front. I dread tomorrow when she has to fill in the form with us together, as I have kept everything from him and he is unaware what is likely to happen. His behaviour is very challenging and yet he is still very strong and able,altho his mind has almost gone, and his recognition of family members is zilch.
I am so upset, don't really want to go down this path, but I know deep down I cannt cope for much longer, but there is still that little spark there , and I have a guilt trip. He is not eating very well now, and I fear incontinence is not very far away.
He had a bad day this week when he couldn't handle going to the toilet , Dr had prescribed some medication for his blocked bowel, and it was everywhere.
Where do I go from here, I cry myself to sleep most nights and feel selfish, thinking about myself and not him. We have been married 54 yrs and it is a heartbreaking,end
for both.. Sorry to burden e veryone I know you all have your own problems. There doesn't seem to be that much help out there !!!!