I feel humbled reading some of your messages, and realise that my own situation is nowhere near as difficult as it is for many of you. My dad is 89 and now in a nursing home where he is well-looked after but his dementia is getting worse. We try to go and see him most days and today was upsetting as he was particularly hostile to me and my husband, accusing us of taking all his money. I have known for some time that my dad has had dementia, but his condition was in a way covered up by my mum who has been - and still is, to an extent - in a state of denial. She is 88, partially sighted and still living at home, and it is really her that I am having most trouble dealing with. She is incredibly negative and, in spite of the fact that we support her and do a lot for her, it never seems to be enough. What I find really upsetting, however, is how she feels that she can 'get dad round', this really means that when she visits she bullies him and tells him off if he is in a strange mood, in a sense he is frightened into submission. She has always been a very controlling person, and likes to feel that she can control every person and situation. I have tried to be very patient and gentle with her but to be quite honest I am completely worn down by the situation of dealing with her and dad. I have my own family and I work too, and to be honest it feels as though I am being continually hit round the head with a bat. I am very lucky that I do have a lovely supportive husband who helps me as much as he can, but I just feel completely overwhelmed sometimes. I am now thinking of going to the GP, as I feel that I probably need some support.