Having a sad moment .........

Discussion in 'I have a partner with dementia' started by Trisha4, Sep 21, 2015.

  1. Trisha4

    Trisha4 Registered User

    Jan 16, 2014
    2,442
    Yorkshire
    ...... so I've come to TP because I know you'll understand. Son was here at the weekend and as he lives in Panama that's a rare treat. He went off to London yesterday for business from where he will return to Panama. I miss him. He saw a big difference in his Dad which has probably heightened my awareness. Things are getting more difficult for him which is the nature of the beast that is Alzheimer's. So the self indulgent tears are flowing this morning while I have my cup of tea. We all agree it's not fair, it hurts, it's frustrating and then we get on with it. And so will I ........ when I've had my cup of tea.


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  2. minxie

    minxie Registered User

    Dec 29, 2014
    10
    Sorry to hear you are sad! my thoughts are with you as I also have very sad days especially when I see my sons sad! Take care X and hope you enjoyed you cuppa xx
     
  3. Trisha4

    Trisha4 Registered User

    Jan 16, 2014
    2,442
    Yorkshire
    Thanks Minxie. There was an advert once which said you're never alone with a (but I can't remember what it was for). Well you're never alone with TP. Last swig of tea to go, loins girded and I'm off to start the day. X


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  4. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
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    Sending love & hugs Trisha xx
     
  5. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,375
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    These waves of sadness often hit me first thing in the morning Trisha when I always seemed to be the most vulnerable.

    Having time with your son and a bit of normality in your life, not only shows you what normality is, it also shows what you miss.
     
  6. marionq

    marionq Registered User

    Apr 24, 2013
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    Wasn't it "You're never alone with a Strand" and was a scene with a man standing smoking under a lamp in a darkened street. I have never smoked but I liked the noir feel of the advert.

    Enjoy your tea.
     
  7. Alison N

    Alison N Registered User

    Jan 3, 2015
    208
    Surrey
    They aren't tears of self indulgence they are a way of releasing. It helps to have tears now and again. My mum always says that when you get to rock bottom and have tears from there the only way is up. So look on it as a way of going up in order to face what is next on the list xx
     
  8. minxie

    minxie Registered User

    Dec 29, 2014
    10
    Very True I shall think of that also xxxxxx
     
  9. esmeralda

    esmeralda Registered User

    Nov 27, 2014
    3,072
    Devon
    This is a courageous and beautiful thread.
    Sending love to all of us.
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  10. stanleypj

    stanleypj Registered User

    Dec 8, 2011
    10,650
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    Tears are necessary sometimes. I hope you are feeling a bit less sad now Trisha.
     
  11. Eleonora

    Eleonora Registered User

    Dec 21, 2012
    171
    Abingdon Oxfordshire
    #11 Eleonora, Sep 21, 2015
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    The ad was for Strand cigarettes, and showed a lonely hunched over man, shrouded by fog, in a doorway, lighting a Strand cigarette. It was one of the great advertising commercial failures. No one wanted to be like the that sad guy.:(

    I do hope your day improves, and the sun shines for you soon. Big Hugs xx
     
  12. Lindy50

    Lindy50 Registered User

    Dec 11, 2013
    5,302
    Cotswolds
    Hi Trisha :)

    You are not being self indulgent!!! It's only natural to feel sad in your circumstances, I think, and it's good to let it out a bit. I always find the transition from 'dementia world' to 'normal' ( whatever that is!) really hard. And I miss my daughter, who only lives in London.....:eek:

    I hope your cup of tea helped and that your day is improving.

    Love, Lindy xx
     
  13. Lilac Blossom

    Lilac Blossom Registered User

    Oct 6, 2014
    516
    Scotland
    Ah Trisha - I felt the same recently when our daughter went away after spending a few days with us. Like your son, she saw a big difference in her dad and of course it makes her feel so sad when she has to leave. xx
     
  14. Scarlett123

    Scarlett123 Registered User

    Apr 30, 2013
    3,802
    Essex
    "God makes tears to wash away sorrow" - oft quoted by my Mum and Aunts. xxx
     
  15. Slugsta

    Slugsta Registered User

    (((Trisha)))
     
  16. nannylondon

    nannylondon Registered User

    Apr 7, 2014
    2,478
    London
    Hi Trisha sending you hugs and no it isn't self indulgent to cry it is a release we all have moments like it wishing you strength xxx
     
  17. Trisha4

    Trisha4 Registered User

    Jan 16, 2014
    2,442
    Yorkshire
    Thank you one and all. Just thank you. Love and hugs back to everyone


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