God, I hope so!! Dad has finally made the appointment for mum to go to Walton to see the specialists (I think that's what they are - mum's consultant referred her). He's also asked me to look into how he invokes his POA, he's asked me to get the forms for all the benefits he can claim and is prepared to consider going on a "carers course" at our local college. Admitedly, I'm doing all the donkey work but considering his usual ostritch behaviour I think it's quite a breakthrough. I shall put a lot of it down to me taking all your excellent advice and starting to restrict how much I will do for him, as he just won't get outside help (carers etc) so I'm hoping this is a step in the right direction for us all. He is still letting her drive (she was out and about before I went to work this morning) but I've reported this to the DVLA and I can't do much else about that.