Mum lives at home with carers. I do not live in uk but travel every two weeks to be with her. Came to take her to our home for Christmas but she was too ill to travel with a chest infection. Then she started to refuse all food, just has a few sips of lucozade and tea. Doctor checked her and infection cleared so he suggested energy drinks. The practice has been closed for Christmas I have now been here 2 weeks and have to go home as my husband ( who is 71, still working and trying to look after a smallholding alone at present) needs me. Mum is now very weak, but on her feet and very happy here. She is also now partly incontinent, very confused and wobbly. I took her to check out a respite home yesterday and she was furious, told me I was a liar and refused to stay. She is not safe alone in between carers, and I have to leave. How can I take this happiness away from her?