Oh I could've wrote this myself..I've been living with dad for 15 mi ths now with my 2 kids in a small cramped house, gave up my job, my social life, my kids hated leaving their friends on an estate to live in the countryside with no kids nearby....I didn't grow up with my dad, my mam left him when I was 2..I can see why now!!...ive never been hugely close to him as my mam raised me...i got closer to him in my teens but hes always been very gruff and an uneducated man, barely schooled and went out to work at 12...known by most as a difficult man to get on with, his way or no way, he always knows best...very backward and narrow minded......but can be a softie at times underneath it all....hes now almost 85 and is even worse...no matter what I do it's wrong, I get no thanks for anything, I'm his sole carer..my 2 brothers dont do much unless they HAVE to...day in day out hes rude to me, I'll tempered, criticising and hes only got mild alzheimer's/dementia...he cant drive now, never been a big socialiser only in his own small circle, refuses to visit his brothers houses, refuses to join mens shed, refuses to go anywhere interesting yet tells people he only gets out when hes brought....dosent want to read dosent want to watch that **** on telly....and gets the hump if I say I'm going anywhere....he dosent want my partner 'making a habit' of staying over....I'm 40 not 14 like....hence my partner didnt come over for valentine's night as he had stayed over last weekend and my dad kept asking what time he was going at.....God forgive me but I'll say it out loud.......at times I've wished him dead....there I said it...im so tired of being put down and not being able to live how I want in 'not' my own home....cantthrow out junk that's piled up because for some reason he wants it yet theres no room to put the groceries away, hes got the biggest bedroom with a king bed to himself and me and my daughter are squashed into the middle room in bunk beds and my sons in a box room where I had to buy a high sleeper bed just so could fit his stuff into the room.....i gave up a beautiful 4 bed house in town for this....and if I try to modernise this place I told I'm only here to get the house ?....I *******hate my life and some moments I almost hate him....he sits there day in day out complaining if the lights are on or the telly on about wasting electricity....eh I pay all the bills myself so it's none of his concern? He complains if we eat 'that aul *****, ie anything that's not spuds n veg....its a prison sentence in a way and I wish I was one of you who really loves their parent...ido love him but most of the time i dont like him ????