Know this comes up a lot but OH has the sort of incontinence that is not getting to the loo in time or messing up the physical process of a pee. Never at night or just sitting around which makes it seem more like something that can be worked round Is distressing him HUGELY and he hates pads and hates me prompting him to go to the loo regularly. Now doesn't want to go out at all in case it goes wrong. Anxious sleeping in case it does start happening at night. ( Waterproof cover on mattress and occasionally wears pull-ups if particularly worried) Has anyone ever found a way of resolving this? Could it be linked to meds? On Donepezil (normal dose) and Memantine (low dose). No UTI and had scan of bladder and kidneys which didn't show any real cause.