Has anyone ever had dealings with the Intesive Team

[mrsted]

Hi All
Following on from last weeks antics FIL is no better. In fact he appears to be remembering all the fights he has ever had and enjoying remebering them. We have the Intensive Team coming in today and hopefully this will allow MIL to tell them that she can't cope instead of walking down the pub to get away from it all. My question is, has anyone had dealings with this type of team, it sounds very positive to me and I just hope they can put something in to place as hubby and I are at a loss as to how much more we can do.

Thanks in advance
K

 

[Grannie G]

Hello mrsted

It sounds similar the the Mental Health Team [ MHT ] which was involved in helping me and my husband.

I can only speak from personal experience but when the MHT was involved we had a weekly visit from a named worker who gave me support and took us both to a dementia cafe to try to help my husband socialise.

It does sound positive and I hope both your MiL and FiL will benefit.

 

[kingmidas1962]

I had involvement with the Intensive team (at least I think that's what they were, but might not have been called that at the time)

My dad has dementia and went into care in June 2012 - my mum who had been caring for him cracked under the strain and had a breakdown in August the same year.

We were visited by a psychiatrist and doctor the day after I called them saying that she was saying that she was in complete meltdown and saying she wanted to die - they made sure that I was able to stay with her the night before to ensure that she was safe.

Obviously under different circumstances to the ones you're experiencing but the psychiatrist was a specialist in elderly mental health and was so kind - she held mums hand and sympathised, and mum told her everything that had happened. Mum was admitted to psychiatric hospital where she stayed for 8 weeks or so, eventually moving to sheltered housing as she couldn't cope at home.

Its been a long road and things wont ever be the same again, but they are better than they were. Mum continues to have mental health issues but if I need any help all I have to do is call them and they will come and see her so from that point of view I have been happy with the treatment she received.

I would say that it is very important for your mum to say clearly that she can't cope - although I also understand how hard it is to do. In the early days all my mum talked about was how 'weak' she was, and how she was ashamed that she couldn't cope - but eventually it did sink in that it would have been nearly impossible for ANYONE to manage in the same situation.

 

[mrsted]

An update

Firstly thanks for all your kind words of support. MIl has admitted it has got too much for her and the team were fab. In fact this is probrably a blessing in disguise as hubby feels relieved and they have said they are going to chase up the MRI scan he is waiting for and they are going to get social involved. MIL's way of coping is to go to the oub at lunch and evening as this is what she has always done. I am hoping with social services getting involved they will see she needs help as much as FIL does. The fight he had last week (with the guy he thought was having an affair with MIL) is not being reported to the police but he has now become fixated with fights. He has now decided that as he can't get up the stairs to go to the tiolet he will not change his clothes either. MIL has also realised that we have done all we can and she needs to get further help. I was going to attend the meeting today but following a discussion with my work collegue I felt the dynamics would change and this would not help. I am just trying to eat something now as I have felt sick with worry all weekend. Thanks again to all for your support it really is apprecaited and I just hope I can give some advice back.
K