1. Expert Q&A: Protecting a person with dementia from financial abuse - Weds 26 June, 3:30-4:30 pm

    Financial abuse can have serious consequences for a person with dementia. Find out how to protect a person with dementia from financial abuse.

    Sam, our Knowledge Officer (Legal and Welfare Rights) is our expert on this topic. She will be here to answer your questions on Wednesday 26 June between 3:30 - 4:30 pm.

    You can either post questions >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll answer as many as we can on the day.

  1. Louise.D

    Louise.D Registered User

    Apr 13, 2007
    68
    Essex
    I think that my mother is being harassed by another resident at her care home. I may be reading too much into this but when I visited her yesterday a resident came over to her and kissed her. I've seen the resident do this before but not to this extent. It made me feel quite sick.

    My mother is in the last stages of AD and is in a home with 'dementia' and 'older persons' registration. She does not have the mental capacity to tell this person to go away and is too disabled to pull away.

    My mother seems not to be bothered by what this resident did but I am. If my mother was lucid she would be so upset.

    I don't know what to do about this?
     
  2. Amy

    Amy Registered User

    Jan 4, 2006
    3,453
    Hiya Louise,
    I think that if you are feeling concerned you should try and talk to the manager/manageress about your worries. If the attentions are inappropriate, then they cannot simply be ignored - you are there to preserve your mum's dignity. I would start with the gentle, concerned daughter approach, and see what response you get.
    Do let us know how you get on if you speak to the Home.
    Love Helen
     
  3. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    Hi Louise

    I agree with Helen. If anything makes you uncomfortable, you should talk to the manager about it. It's a tricky situation, these sort of advances are quite common, but it's not something your mum should have to put up with. It's the home's reponsibility to handle it, and they should have strategies in place.

    Love,
     
  4. elaineo2

    elaineo2 Registered User

    Jul 6, 2007
    945
    leigh lancashire
    Hi LouiseD,Although there may be no harm intened by the resident you must report your concerns.I have encountered this in the home i work in.the resident was behaving inappropriatley with both staff and residents.All put down to a UTI!I do not want to class all sufferers of a mental disorder the same,but in my experience and of the reading up on mental health issues it appears that some suffers "loose their inhibitions",wherby what you witnessed may be the case.Anyway we won't read too much into it at this time.Please take the advice given and voice your concerns.it may be a storm in a teacup.love elainex
     
  5. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
    10,824
    london
    I also agree with Amy , please let us know how it go when you do speak to them
     
  6. Cate

    Cate Registered User

    Jul 2, 2006
    1,370
    Newport, Gwent
    Hi Louise

    If you think that the attention given to your mum is not appropriate, then I would, as others have suggested, talk to management about it, and nicely but firmly say you dont want it to happen again.

    Sadly as your mum is not now in a position to speak up for herself, it falls on you to do it for her.

    I wouldnt like it if it was happening to my mum either.

    Best wishes

    Cate
     

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