My mum died in 2010 of end stage Alzheimer's - hung on to bitter end with all the horrors that entails.
My problem at the moment is that I have been caring for my mother in law who has vascular dementia since my mum died without any break in between and every day that I see her it just keeps reminding me of how my mum suffered in her last months. It's as though I can't move on until my mother in law dies and I can be free of all things dementia related.
There are differences with my mum and MIL as MIL is more aggressive and unwilling to be helped and can be quite abusive verbally when she doesn't understand why she needs help with showering when in her mind she has already been in the shower. My mum was very grateful for my help and was never aggressive, although when she went into a care home she became a bit aggressive because she didn't understand what was happening to her and she lost her language skills.
I feel very teary today - not helped by my fluctuating hormones due to perimenopause
I know everyone on this forum understands what I'm going through. I just wish it wasn't so hard.
Roma
My problem at the moment is that I have been caring for my mother in law who has vascular dementia since my mum died without any break in between and every day that I see her it just keeps reminding me of how my mum suffered in her last months. It's as though I can't move on until my mother in law dies and I can be free of all things dementia related.
There are differences with my mum and MIL as MIL is more aggressive and unwilling to be helped and can be quite abusive verbally when she doesn't understand why she needs help with showering when in her mind she has already been in the shower. My mum was very grateful for my help and was never aggressive, although when she went into a care home she became a bit aggressive because she didn't understand what was happening to her and she lost her language skills.
I feel very teary today - not helped by my fluctuating hormones due to perimenopause
I know everyone on this forum understands what I'm going through. I just wish it wasn't so hard.
Roma