So mum has been in the care home for a week and a half, it seemed to be going so well, but now she wants to go home, she doesn't need any help or support. I clearly just want to get rid of her.
I'm getting guilt trip phone calls, and when I went to see her today she looked so unhappy, after around 40 mins of her constantly telling me that there is nothing wrong with her and what is my problem and why can't she take care of herself I left the room. Tried every distraction conversation I could think of.
In the end I took her out to take the dog for a walk, couldn't go far as it was too cold for her, but it did the distraction trick.
I've had 3 phone calls since then the last one asking if I can bring some fruit up now, which I can't i'm on my own with the girls, and out at a conference tomorrow, she wasn't happy about waiting until Sunday.
I feel so guilty, such a bad daugher, but I know I can't do it anymore, I know that I was going under with the pressure, I know that she is safer here and I simply couldn't keep her safe.
I just want her to settle and be happy- but then I know that is crazy pip dreaming as she was so unhappy before and it was all my fault for not beign there all the time.
Wish I could catch a break, but dementia just doesn't play fair
I'm getting guilt trip phone calls, and when I went to see her today she looked so unhappy, after around 40 mins of her constantly telling me that there is nothing wrong with her and what is my problem and why can't she take care of herself I left the room. Tried every distraction conversation I could think of.
In the end I took her out to take the dog for a walk, couldn't go far as it was too cold for her, but it did the distraction trick.
I've had 3 phone calls since then the last one asking if I can bring some fruit up now, which I can't i'm on my own with the girls, and out at a conference tomorrow, she wasn't happy about waiting until Sunday.
I feel so guilty, such a bad daugher, but I know I can't do it anymore, I know that I was going under with the pressure, I know that she is safer here and I simply couldn't keep her safe.
I just want her to settle and be happy- but then I know that is crazy pip dreaming as she was so unhappy before and it was all my fault for not beign there all the time.
Wish I could catch a break, but dementia just doesn't play fair