Recently after the death of my granny I have been struggling with dealing with it. Many people try and help me by telling me to remember the happy times I had with her but she was diagnosed 20 years ago shortly before I was born. When I was young I took the time for granted and as I grew older her condition deteriorated. All I can remember are the unhappy memories that I never want to remember but are burned into my mind. I'm away from my family and my friends don't understand as they have never had a dementia death and don't know how its different to a normal death. Any advice on how to deal with her death without having the memories most people have?