I travel to my Dad’s every week to provide general care support to him, sleeping over some two or three nights before returning home to my wife and family. They stopped coming with me on stop overs after his condition began to seriously deteriorate 12 months ago. Whilst I’m there I have to spend most of my time in my bedroom out of his way otherwise he gets aggressive and abusive. Now Christmas is approaching and the thought of spending it away from my family practically in solitary confinement is not one I’m relishing. I would feel guilty leaving him home alone at Christmas but since he won’t come to us should I pack my bags as usual and go and spend a miserable time with him or leave him to it and hope that it’s ‘just another day’ to him?