Hi all
I have been looking after my Dad for nearly 4 years - ever since he had a stroke in 2012. I'd say that most days, he is at a moderate stage in his dementia, but some days are notably worse.
Whilst I have been looking after Dad, my brother has been living at home with us ( and his partner ) and going to work full time. It was decided some time ago that he would take over the caring role, allowing me to return to my home with OH ( who I have been visiting once a month ) and go back to work.
I'm very excited to be getting back to my familiar life, a new job ( fingers crossed ) and old friends, but I really don't know how to approach the change with regards to leaving Dad. Is it best to tell him in advance - leave it to the last minute - not tell him and say I'm going on holiday........I just don't know.
When I go away for the weekend, he is fine with my brother and his partner and soon settles into their pattern.
What do people think?
Heidi
I have been looking after my Dad for nearly 4 years - ever since he had a stroke in 2012. I'd say that most days, he is at a moderate stage in his dementia, but some days are notably worse.
Whilst I have been looking after Dad, my brother has been living at home with us ( and his partner ) and going to work full time. It was decided some time ago that he would take over the caring role, allowing me to return to my home with OH ( who I have been visiting once a month ) and go back to work.
I'm very excited to be getting back to my familiar life, a new job ( fingers crossed ) and old friends, but I really don't know how to approach the change with regards to leaving Dad. Is it best to tell him in advance - leave it to the last minute - not tell him and say I'm going on holiday........I just don't know.
When I go away for the weekend, he is fine with my brother and his partner and soon settles into their pattern.
What do people think?
Heidi