Mum is on steroids and chemo for cancer (along side dementia) and has recently (so 3 months into her treatment) started to be confused all the time with very few occasions when she is lucid. She has been in a care home since May as she is no longer able to weight bear and is doubly incontenant. Talking to invisible people etc. The care home assure me the majority of the time she is calm and chatting but she has been removed from social areas for being rude and upsetting other residents and is awake all night talking to these imaginary people making her sleepy in the day. I have asked her medical team to review her meds (steroids particularly) to see if they are the culprit, asked nurses to check for UTI/infections. BUT I feel so ineffective - I don't live nearby and can only visit monthly. We use to talk daily on the phone and do video calls but these no longer work with/for her. My brother lives 5 mins away and does visit once a week but I struggle to get the feedback I need from him and I am beginning to doubt the home (are they supervising her eat/drink etc) things I simply can not answer. I have asked her social worker to visit and am trying to employ a paid carer to check her once a week. Any advice on how I can deal with this as I feel I am letting mum down massively. Hope this makes sense! Could do with finding someone with similar experience? One thing I am struggling with is an old friend/neighbour who has been lovely and visiting but she saw mum in just a t-shirt and her pad the other day in a bit of a state and I just know mum would be mortified if she knew this lady had seen her like this. Sorry I have rambled on!