hello,
Not sure if anyone’s still up but I’ve had such a terrible day I had to post. My dad (mums primary carer) went into hospital with breathing issues on Saturday night and I’ve had to organise respite care for mum today. After putting up a bit of a fight and floods of tears, she’s there, but I feel so guilty about not having her with me. My shoulders feel weighted down and I can’t stop crying.
Mums dementia isn’t at the point where she doesn’t recognise me but her other health issues are becoming more prominent and her health is failing. My poor dad has been struggling to cope at home with her and his body is just exhausted. I’ve done my best by batch cooking their foods so that they eat well and help manage finances etc., but it’s not enough.
Mum thinks she’s at respite for 2 days but in reality I think dad will be in hospital for at least 7-10 days and I’m not sure he will be able to care for her after. I now feel completely split as I need to take her to see dad at hospital each day (15 miles away each way) and manage my own work and family. I’m already exhausted emotionally and physically from the past few days.
I’m not even sure what advice I’m asking for....just how to cope with the guilt maybe and how on earth to cope moving forwards if mum can’t go home. She’s going to get so angry and upset.
And though I know it’s true, if one more person says to me to take one day st a time, I’m going to cry again. Deep breaths and trying to carry on, but I just feel like it’s all too much to bear.
Not sure if anyone’s still up but I’ve had such a terrible day I had to post. My dad (mums primary carer) went into hospital with breathing issues on Saturday night and I’ve had to organise respite care for mum today. After putting up a bit of a fight and floods of tears, she’s there, but I feel so guilty about not having her with me. My shoulders feel weighted down and I can’t stop crying.
Mums dementia isn’t at the point where she doesn’t recognise me but her other health issues are becoming more prominent and her health is failing. My poor dad has been struggling to cope at home with her and his body is just exhausted. I’ve done my best by batch cooking their foods so that they eat well and help manage finances etc., but it’s not enough.
Mum thinks she’s at respite for 2 days but in reality I think dad will be in hospital for at least 7-10 days and I’m not sure he will be able to care for her after. I now feel completely split as I need to take her to see dad at hospital each day (15 miles away each way) and manage my own work and family. I’m already exhausted emotionally and physically from the past few days.
I’m not even sure what advice I’m asking for....just how to cope with the guilt maybe and how on earth to cope moving forwards if mum can’t go home. She’s going to get so angry and upset.
And though I know it’s true, if one more person says to me to take one day st a time, I’m going to cry again. Deep breaths and trying to carry on, but I just feel like it’s all too much to bear.