Many of you will know how I've wrestled with my emotions as whether to put my husband in care. But also the constant battles I have with my stepsons.......but now I can take no more.... We have loads of support from medics, SS etc, I couldn't have more. They have given extensive rolling respite, daycare and home help but I can't take anymore. I'm a zombie and want my live back. He is not quite ready for residential care, although SS will agree to this route.....he won't. I would say he is about 80% ready. If I walk out he will probably be forced into care but I run the risk of losing my portion of the house which I've worked many years for. My stepsons will do everything in their power to ensure I'm shown as the heartless step mother, although they do nothing to help. I will have to support myself from savings until I get a job as I've no income. We have tried for 9 months to make this work but it doesn't, there are numerous things that make it unworkable. Many will think this heartless, but I am relatively young, sick of living on anti depressants, being suicidal. Do I walk away and create a new life, albeit a hard one ?? Or stick it to a life of misery for both of us??