I do not like the over load of emotions, I am feeling since my mother got AZ 4 years ago as I am also a single parent , with 4 children who are all over 18 now & its hard , where your feeling so vulnerable so low anyway with what is happening within your family , you well take things personnel when your father take his stress out on you.
My mother use to visit me a lot, before dad died and mum was in the early stages, dad loved it when she stayed over , drove me mad , we did not know then that mum was in the early stages of AZ . I am not blaming mum, mum stress my father out so much one day that it gave him another heart attack, because his blood purser was so high and had not taken his medication for it that it killed him.
Now I do not want to worry you, as your father may have not suffers from heart problems, but I just wanted to share that, just that I use to feel like piggy in the middle also, but I could go home use to swich of when I got home , left dad to live within it .
I could say Try stop making the peace between them, as your father is going to see it as your taking side, so will feel like taking his frustration / stress out on you, but its hard I know . but if you could control that emotion within you that making it reflect back on to you, I not sure how to say this , see your father frustration anger in that moment , as his own problem issue in not understand how it affect himself or you . anger from anyone is not at you but an unresolved issue from the past , you can’t change control help the way he reacts forward stress , you can only change control , the way you react with your emotion when he is giveing you his stress . I do believe in change the feeling change the thought .
Someone said above about getting a social worker , so can organise AZ day centre for your mum , giving your father a break away from your mum , is that a possibility that your father would consider for your mother ? or does your mother already go to one ?
PS Oh, how I wish my father would have got angry with me at least then he would of let it all out and not bottled it all up. He was such a quiet man, opposite to my mother who always let her anger be know