Hello all
In the next couple of days I will receive the registered EPA for my mum. I feel so very guilty. She lives on her own (with carers dropping in briefly twice a day). Doesn't get lost (yet) providing she sticks to her usual routine.
On the advice of her consultant and CPN I was told to register the EPA as they had noted a 'sudden and severe deterioration'. Also, they were reducing, with a view to taking her off her medication completely as they felt it was doing no good.
I sat down with mum and explained what they had said. Needless to say, she went ballistic, saying I would 'kill her' if I registered the document. That she wasn't becoming 'mentally incapable' and 'how would she get her shopping if she couldn't go to the bank?' Of course, half an hour later, she had forgotten and has not mentioned it since.
However, since the slow reduction of her AD meds, she seems to have calmed down a little in herself. Is not drawing out vast amounts of money from bank account and seems (if this is the right word) 'happier'. Unfortunately I am not - though I should be! I have taken away her last bit of independence. Once I get the document, I will have to tell the bank and they will stop her popping in and drawing out money. (She can only draw money over the counter ... I already spoke to the bank months ago and asked for her overdraft to be reduced and a limit on daily withdrawals and, if she went over it, to refer to me.
Have I been too hasty? I did think long and hard about doing it as some of you will know. Now we are having a few sunny days, mum likes to pop out to the shops (via the bank) ... how will I be able to make sure she has enough money, other than leaving it lying around the house?
She presents so well which creates its own problems, I suppose; although I guess it's got her through this far!
Sorry, feel really upset. I'm dreading the post, dreading going to the bank, dreading mum's reaction.
In the next couple of days I will receive the registered EPA for my mum. I feel so very guilty. She lives on her own (with carers dropping in briefly twice a day). Doesn't get lost (yet) providing she sticks to her usual routine.
On the advice of her consultant and CPN I was told to register the EPA as they had noted a 'sudden and severe deterioration'. Also, they were reducing, with a view to taking her off her medication completely as they felt it was doing no good.
I sat down with mum and explained what they had said. Needless to say, she went ballistic, saying I would 'kill her' if I registered the document. That she wasn't becoming 'mentally incapable' and 'how would she get her shopping if she couldn't go to the bank?' Of course, half an hour later, she had forgotten and has not mentioned it since.
However, since the slow reduction of her AD meds, she seems to have calmed down a little in herself. Is not drawing out vast amounts of money from bank account and seems (if this is the right word) 'happier'. Unfortunately I am not - though I should be! I have taken away her last bit of independence. Once I get the document, I will have to tell the bank and they will stop her popping in and drawing out money. (She can only draw money over the counter ... I already spoke to the bank months ago and asked for her overdraft to be reduced and a limit on daily withdrawals and, if she went over it, to refer to me.
Have I been too hasty? I did think long and hard about doing it as some of you will know. Now we are having a few sunny days, mum likes to pop out to the shops (via the bank) ... how will I be able to make sure she has enough money, other than leaving it lying around the house?
She presents so well which creates its own problems, I suppose; although I guess it's got her through this far!
Sorry, feel really upset. I'm dreading the post, dreading going to the bank, dreading mum's reaction.