Mum who is 87 and in nursing home with Alz has been diagnosed last week with DVT in the upper thigh . She is back in the nursing home with daily injections. Whilst with her in the hospital they want to investigate further by way way of a CT scan next week to find out if she also has cancer.
Mum was diagnosed 10 years ago with Alzheimer's and was admitted to care home 16 months ago after I had packed up work to support my Dad looking after at home for a further 2 years. Like us all we got to breaking point as there is only me and my husband I have no other siblings .my Dad is now 84 in poor health and is distraught with the thought of loosing his wife of62 years.
I am in the home with my Dad every day for 7 hrs as Mum is not eating (she is on ensure and forticreme with milk added
and if I wasn't there to encourage her to drink , her life would be over. She sleeps so much is also suffering with Osteoporosis arthritis so has strong pain relief already and spends the mornings asleep in the armchair and then to give her back relief is put to bed late afternoon.
To be honest I am keeping her going with the support of staff because my Dad is so lost already with her condition. He just says "at least I have her" which in the real sense he hasn't.
Mum and I have always had a really close bond and I just hate seeing her like this and the thought that she may now have cancer is just too much to take.
I feel awful because I really want this to end not only for her but for me too. This thought is killing me because I know my thoughts are very naughty as this will create more grief for my Dad. But seeing my Mum slipping away every day and maybe with the added complication of cancer I can't bear this any more.
I have spoken to her Dr as whilst the CT scan is going to be traumatic as Mum will need sedating she wants to try and get it done, as if it is cancer her treatment for the DVT will be different from if they find out it's not cancer. We have agreed with the Dr that if it is cancer then Chemo or Rad would actually kill her as she is already very week.
She is immobile, confused and in pain.
Please forgive me, but I pray each night for her to be spared this latest trauma and let her go in her sleep but then I awake it's another day and I feel so guilty before even seeing her.
Mum was diagnosed 10 years ago with Alzheimer's and was admitted to care home 16 months ago after I had packed up work to support my Dad looking after at home for a further 2 years. Like us all we got to breaking point as there is only me and my husband I have no other siblings .my Dad is now 84 in poor health and is distraught with the thought of loosing his wife of62 years.
I am in the home with my Dad every day for 7 hrs as Mum is not eating (she is on ensure and forticreme with milk added
and if I wasn't there to encourage her to drink , her life would be over. She sleeps so much is also suffering with Osteoporosis arthritis so has strong pain relief already and spends the mornings asleep in the armchair and then to give her back relief is put to bed late afternoon.
To be honest I am keeping her going with the support of staff because my Dad is so lost already with her condition. He just says "at least I have her" which in the real sense he hasn't.
Mum and I have always had a really close bond and I just hate seeing her like this and the thought that she may now have cancer is just too much to take.
I feel awful because I really want this to end not only for her but for me too. This thought is killing me because I know my thoughts are very naughty as this will create more grief for my Dad. But seeing my Mum slipping away every day and maybe with the added complication of cancer I can't bear this any more.
I have spoken to her Dr as whilst the CT scan is going to be traumatic as Mum will need sedating she wants to try and get it done, as if it is cancer her treatment for the DVT will be different from if they find out it's not cancer. We have agreed with the Dr that if it is cancer then Chemo or Rad would actually kill her as she is already very week.
She is immobile, confused and in pain.
Please forgive me, but I pray each night for her to be spared this latest trauma and let her go in her sleep but then I awake it's another day and I feel so guilty before even seeing her.