I have been caring for my mum who has dementia for the last few years and she has unfortunately now been taken into permanent residential care. She had been visiting the care home over the last year, first of all daily then a couple of days and recently nearly everyday. She did not want to go initially but looked forward to going after a while. It reached the stage where she did not want to be alone, ever and would even follow me into the toilet. A decision was made and she was taken into permanent care. She is apparently very happy, social worker commented how content she was, staff at the home say she is happy and joins in everything but whenever I go to see her she seems miserable and sad and wont talk to me. I feel bad enough anyway but it seems that she wants to make me feel worse every time I go. She is not like it with my sister but then I was her main carer. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can deal with this?