Social Services have arranged for mum to have someone call at lunchtime to check on mum and maybe assist her making a sandwich, but mum is very much in denial and does not see she has a problem. They offer to do things for her like hoover, or make her some lunch, but she tells them not to as she will do it hersekl when they have gone, but of course she does not do it so she then can go all day with nothing to eat until me or my brother arrive at tea time and do her something to eat. I work full time and my brother works, but we do share the responsibility equally. She is awaiting an appointment with the Department of Pyshciatry of Later Life at the local hospital for a further assessment.
At night time she does not wander aimlessly but can turn up at my house or my brothers house (fortunately we both live quite near) in the early hours as she seems to think some men are after her and she says they are trying to take her away but she only wants to go with my dad (dad passed away 5 years ago) and if they promise to take her to dad then she will go with them but she does not want to go anywhere else!
It is very hard to listen to as she is obviously very frightened, and we did have a spell of staying with her, but then she said she wanted to get back to normal and stay on her own. She does have spells of feeling guilty herself and says she does not want to inconvenience us and that we are not to "run around after her as we are busy"
It is a very difficult illness to deal with and as we are relatively new to all this, I am finding this site very informative and useful, although sometimes it is quite scary too because there are a lot of people going through an awful lot worse than my family at present.