I've just heard from the SW and she tells me that from Monday there are no emergency EMI respite beds available in the whole of Shropshire!!! Methinks they need to set up some more.
Unless something comes up in he meantime Mum will be coming home next Monday for two weeks, she will then return to the CH she is in now for 3 weeks. This takes things almost to the end of my school holiday so God knows what will happen then because I absolutely can't have Mum at home when I'm back at work. It leaves things so uncertain again further down the line but at least I know what the next 6 weeks hold. I have asked for a day centre placement for the fortnight that Mum is back at home with me but I've yet to hear.
One thing that has eased my conscience about making the decision to find a permanent CH place for Mum is that everyone I have spoken to during the week, especially the staff at the CH, say that they have noticed a deterioration in Mum's condition. I now realise that those weeks when I was at my wits end but feeling so guilty at not coping were made so much worse by a total loss of perspective about the progression of Mum's AD. When you are with someone so much you don't really see the small changes but they build up so quickly into big changes without you noticing or having time to find ways to cope.
The SW is sending me a list of local homes with EMI beds so that I can look for somewhere that I like that might have a shorter waiting list than the one Mum is already on and might also be a bit nearer home, so fingers crossed.
Liz x
Unless something comes up in he meantime Mum will be coming home next Monday for two weeks, she will then return to the CH she is in now for 3 weeks. This takes things almost to the end of my school holiday so God knows what will happen then because I absolutely can't have Mum at home when I'm back at work. It leaves things so uncertain again further down the line but at least I know what the next 6 weeks hold. I have asked for a day centre placement for the fortnight that Mum is back at home with me but I've yet to hear.
One thing that has eased my conscience about making the decision to find a permanent CH place for Mum is that everyone I have spoken to during the week, especially the staff at the CH, say that they have noticed a deterioration in Mum's condition. I now realise that those weeks when I was at my wits end but feeling so guilty at not coping were made so much worse by a total loss of perspective about the progression of Mum's AD. When you are with someone so much you don't really see the small changes but they build up so quickly into big changes without you noticing or having time to find ways to cope.
The SW is sending me a list of local homes with EMI beds so that I can look for somewhere that I like that might have a shorter waiting list than the one Mum is already on and might also be a bit nearer home, so fingers crossed.
Liz x