OH has been in his Nursing Home since the beginning of August. He is settled and on the whole I am happy with his care.He sleeps a lot during the day and is often asleep when I visit. I am often greeted with either 'he was awake in the evening' or 'he wes asking for you earlier' from staff or 'if you can get him to eat drink get up or wash and dress that would be good' . Culminating today in after I had washed and dressed him got him to eat and drink and settled him down I reported as I left that he had complained of being sore down below the response was to fetch a tube of cream and asked to see if I could do it as he was difficult with them. I declined as I had settled him and didn't want to upset him and then leave.The reason he is there is because he wouldn't do all these things for me.However I feel terribly guilty still for not being there at the right time not visiting more and not caring for him full time. I still visit 4 times a week even though I now work full-time. Does this guilt ever go away?