I wish I could say the same about my marriage.
Mine is a second marriage, OH and I have been together for 18 years and married for 9.
He was diagnosed with Alzheimer's two years and a half ago.
Before his illness he had a varnish of good manners and was seldom rude.
He was only very mean and very very selfish.
I can't remember an act of generosity towards me. I do not mean economic generosity ( he has never given me anything, I have always lived on my own income ), but generosity of feelings. He was and is unable to think of anyone else but himself. He has always had his way at any cost.
Now he is also rude and verbally aggressive if I dare to contradict him.
Therefore I speak to him as less as possible, which means I do not speak at all because there are only the two of us here in his home in the country where HE decided WE would live.
Hello All
I hope you all are well not been on for what seems like an eternity. Hubby has not been the best with this heat we are having at the moment. He has always worshipped the sun but he has had a few chest infections over the past few years as well as being asthmatic so now using inhalers on a daily basis. It is so true the saying that old age never comes by itself. His mobility is steadily getting worse so we have had rails put in throughout the house which makes me feel a lot more at ease knowing that he has that extra support (especially in the shower) as he loves to wander around the house. We laugh with him about this as he likes to check making sure everything is where is should be, but if you were to ask him about one thing he could not say what was in what room but you are guaranteed to have to blue air if he thinks something is different.
We were invited out to watch the world cup final a couple of weeks ago. I was unsure just because of all the noise when people start getting emotional over some games but my daughter said it would only be a few people. Well what a shock when we arrived. The garden was decorated, there was a double gazebo all set up the darker one had been set up with a massive TV for he football and the other was for my birthday. I won’t say what age (special one yes) but I had not said anything about it as hubby does not remember and we have always been lucky enough to be able to treat ourselves to what we want, plus who wants to be reminded of big birthdays? But the family did remember and it was such a beautiful afternoon, at one point I did cry as they had a birthday cake brought out and my Son-in law gave such a beautiful speech. One part was how they as a family where lucky to have someone with so much love for their father in their lives & how much love they have for me.
They had thought of everything while we were there and also for the boys who had a ball. The set up one of the bedrooms with a lovely comfortable seat and headphones for hubby to listen to music or have a nap when he needed some time away from it all. We only stayed for about 4 hours as that was long enough for Hubby.
Apologies I have went on and on, still crocheting and actually getting to be quite good.
God bless x