My Grandma has just been moved from hospital to a care home (she was previously living with my Granddad). She moved on Saturday morning and has been agitated, angry and upset since, saying that my Granddad has now got her where he wants her. She will have said other things too, which have really upset him and my Mum and Aunt (their two daughters).
They have done everything they can, looked into many homes and this was the nicest by a long way. She has her own room and bathroom, and the staff are all trained in caring for people with dementia. There really was no other option, but what can we do about the state she is in? The staff have advised us not to visit at the moment as it will just work her up into even more of a state. How can she forget everything from one minute to the next and yet still remember this from two days ago. Also, she didn't eat when she first went into hospital for a couple of weeks, I'm dreading that happening again.
Does anyone have any advice? We can't reason with her as she can't think rationally. She doesn't want anyone near her or trying to comfort her. She isn't just forgetting that the move ever happened.
By the waym, if hse had gone back to the flat she used to live in with my Granddad she would have been pacing the streets within an hour saying she didn't live there, he wasn't her husband and she was going home.
They have done everything they can, looked into many homes and this was the nicest by a long way. She has her own room and bathroom, and the staff are all trained in caring for people with dementia. There really was no other option, but what can we do about the state she is in? The staff have advised us not to visit at the moment as it will just work her up into even more of a state. How can she forget everything from one minute to the next and yet still remember this from two days ago. Also, she didn't eat when she first went into hospital for a couple of weeks, I'm dreading that happening again.
Does anyone have any advice? We can't reason with her as she can't think rationally. She doesn't want anyone near her or trying to comfort her. She isn't just forgetting that the move ever happened.
By the waym, if hse had gone back to the flat she used to live in with my Granddad she would have been pacing the streets within an hour saying she didn't live there, he wasn't her husband and she was going home.