after reading messages on this board i have a lot to be thankful for my gran is 94 and has had as for 2 years, im 34 so i am really lucky in that respect, to still have her around. my gran has just moved into emi home and i know its for the best for her but am sad that she wont die in her own house where she lived for over 60 years. its cruel that at her age she and us have to go through all this, she wants to die and is just about giving up on life not eating etc, wish she could just be given something so she could die with a little of her dignity still left, as she was always a very independt woman.