While out shopping this morning my husband wanted some flowers, so I bought a bunch. He carried them home while I pulled my shopping trolley. When we reached home he asked me where he should put the bunch of flowers. As I was pulling the trolley into the kitchen I just looked up and said "lay them on the counter in front of the toaster and I'll sort them out in a bit". He just stood and looked about the kitchen, then looked at the toaster and waited. So I then just told him to lay them on the counter which he eventually did. I realised that he was struggling with a two fold command. One, to lay the flowers down and two, to find the toaster. It's like using the words "and then". I'm trying not to do that now. He can't cope with a two fold command. "Put your jumper on and then comb your hair". The truth is he'll probably only do one of those, whichever is the most important one for him. It's all taking a bit of getting used to and I must admit that sometimes I feel he's just being difficult but he isn't. It's down to me to do everything in stages, one step at a time.