I think when Mum had one of her assessments although I was there I think I was asked to go into another room at some point so I wouldn't/couldn't offer any help to Mum. I also asked if I could have a word with the assessor in another room because I felt uncomfortable talking about Mum in front of her (brother wasn't there for the assessment even though he lived with her). I think Mum had carers going in 4 times a day but she would never accept them going in - not helped by brother saying he would never let anyone in the house after our Dad died.
I hope you can get things sorted for both yours and your Mum's sake - it always seems to be that those who have least contact with the PWD that cause the most problems.
I hope you can get things sorted for both yours and your Mum's sake - it always seems to be that those who have least contact with the PWD that cause the most problems.